The theme of my life over the last month has been extreme expansion beyond my fears and toward my dreams. Yes as enticing as it sounds it’s not recommended for the meek or tentative soul - the phrase “be careful what you wish for” is extremely apropros. In the month of September what I experienced looked like everything but expansion as I processed and let go of major sh*#. I came face to face with my ego and past wounds that simply had no place in my life anymore.

So what spurred this extreme inner growth spurt for a person who has done enough personal growth for 10 lifetimes? It’s hard to pinpoint exactly one thing as I am known to left no stone unturned when it comes to self cultivation yet this year, I stepped it up and put myself out there by clearly and publicly stated (on boundlessliving with bob doyle from the secret) my deepest desire which is to become a best-selling author and to be on Oprah (me and millions of people right?).

Beyond this I began studying resistance and it’s impact in keeping you from attracting and manifesting what you want. On major way to eliminate or lessen resistance is to take 100% responsibility for everything in your life. If you don’t own your sh&% than, guess what? It will own you and your life will become a reflection of your sh&%. So, I took a hard and honest look at my life and assumed 100% responsibility for everything working and everything not working.

As I look back to the very beginning of 2008 it kicked off with me chanting to live without fear with a sexy yoga instructor and finding my passion for Kundalini yoga and learning that 2008 was the year of Dharma or discovering your life purpose. Next, my shoulder injury escalated to the point where I thought I could never write again but I somehow healed it and wrote and published my first book in three months. I  have been guided to the teachers, teachings and lessons I needed to expand beyond my fears toward fulfilling my dreams.

I’ve come to learn that expansion is the process of breaking free of everything limited and limiting in your life so that you can literally hold a space big enough for a larger vision. This is why expansion can be physically painful like shedding an old skin and emotionally painful as you re-experience old pain as it bubbles up and leaves.

Once I stated my desire publicly and used the sankalpa method I learned from the sexy yoga instructor (which is to meditate on one single goal) a chain of events began to fall into place. Yet I also look back to before this and other events were also in motion. So as I talk about in my book Chameleon Butterfly Dragonfly there is a loose destiny blueprint waiting for us to bring it into being. Remember when we had to sell our home in Maui? When I realized it was time to sell our home, I decided to turn lemons into lemonaid and create the perfect buyer. T. Harv Eker the author of Secrets of a Millionaire Mind bought the home and as part of the sale, he gifted me a Train the Trainer course which I attended two weeks ago (Scroll to the photo below). This course is to teach you how to lead large seminars and make millions so you can buy homes in Maui for cash like he did!

Then more events and coincidences began to arise as friends or ours in Maui built a home for people involved in the success of Chicken Soup for the Soul. Our friend gave them my book and now she’s reading it. My yoga instructor here in Del Mar knows Jack Canfield and many other transformational leaders. On boundless living I was referred to Steve Harrison who is behind most of the latest best selling book campaigns. It goes on and on. So here I sit on the fringe, one or two steps away from many great success stories. And it’s these next steps that require me to move way beyond my comfort zone and everything I’ve been in the past. It requires me to still be me but the expanded super-sized version.

Expansion went into full force in September when my husband began traveling to Maui to remodel some condos we purchased. So this little project of his (hint:forgiveness is part of expansion) put him in paradise doing what he loves and me at home in Del Mar sending my son off to Kindergarten as a single Mom with a growing business, new book and many other projects on my plate. And the first week of school I got a note something like this, “Aaron had a good day today (finally) he didn’t have any emotional outbursts or lay on the floor during circle time”. So at a time when I wanted to throw myself 100% toward expanding my career, I expanded my potential as a mother instead putting all work aside for two weeks (hint: you can’t expand unless your personal life is working). I learned many things I needed to change in order for my little one to thrive. The biggest lesson was to give him space so he could expand. He was entering big boy school but was stuck in a toddler paradigm. So instead of tightening the reigns with discipline the answer was to expand my view of him, give him more responsibility and allow him to learn his own lessons and grow (phew just typing that one makes me sweat!).

And so expansion continued. I had my first public book signing and first speaking engagement in October and went to the Train the Trainer course gifted to me by T. Harv Eker. In the course we learned how to command a large audience, design our own training courses and break through inhibitions by singing to an audience of 100+ people. You have to get that I’ve always said singing in public would be my greatest fear and to sing well would be the biggest miracle I could ever create. I always believed I have an awful voice and have never sang out loud in front of anyone let alone an audience. My best friend Laurel made me a CD of disco music (my favorite, I know I’m a geek) so I had to choose from YMCA, Disco Inferno and others - I settled on I Will Survive. The lyrics alone caused a breakthrough while I practiced in the safety of my hotel room. Then it was time, I put on my wild spandex outfit and when it was my turn, something clicked (or snapped:) and I let it rip! People actually thought I sang well - they practically had to get the hook and pull me off stage, it was amazing (hint: expand by doing things you dread, they may turn into things you love). And I met some of the most amazing people ever at this course whom I hope to know and grow with forever. Thanks T. Harv!! (Click the photo to view or enlarge)

So prior to leaving for Train the Trainer I hired a coach to move me beyond my money fears (hint: you can not expand with a limited relationship with money). The last session (about expansion of course) was on the same day as a psychic reading my best friend Laurel bought me for my birthday. Prior to this day Laurel had given me the psychic’s number at least three times and I lost it (hmmmm, divine timing perhaps?). So of course the reading was about…you guessed it…expansion. I’m going to cut to the chase, without knowing anything about me, he saw me being published by Hay House and on Oprah. So what does a girl do with that kind of info? Why do I risk setting my self up by sharing something so big in public with the chance of failure looming? The reason I’m sharing it is that if this does all occur how cool will it be that it was in my blog and shared with you? And I just love this stuff! It’s what happens when you put yourself out there.

On Monday, I was digging through old emails and up popped a request for stories about miracles for a book Louise Hay is writing. So I submitted mine. And here I sit with all of the pieces floating out there waiting to be manifested into the physical. I’ve broken through “I will survive” and now am in the gap cultivating my greatest desires. What’s the next step? Expansion is a combination of being in action and allowing the expansion to occur naturally. It’s that delicate zone of cultivation where you’re stepping outside of limits but not fighting against them. More on expanding your capacity to love and receive money and to transform your life through extreme self love.

© Bring U to Life, Inc. For more articles like this and guidance to thrive in every aspect of your life from home, work, love, body, soul and money visit www.bringUtolife.com or click here to join our free membership and receive a free e-book or you may also contact me at cindy@bringUtolife.com to explore coaching and or to learn more about the practice of Life Cultivation.